disturbing news

on Sat B found out a friend's marriage is in trouble & i feel just horrible about it. this is B's best friend & he's known him longer than he's known me, i've only known them as a couple, to imagine them apart...hurts....& let's not even think about the kids.

i know being a military wife gives you a false sense of independence. when they go away on deployment you have to be strong, you have to make everything work, you run the house, take care of the kids, take care of the car, pay the bills & deal with anything that pops up all by yourself.

well, you think you are doing it all by yourself & when they come home & try to interfere with your routine, you resent them for it. you don't realize that although they are away, that bond gives you a lot of strength & you do need them, you do depend on them.

when B was gone to japan for a year, it probably took us 2 years to learn how to be together again. it's a difficult transition & unfortunately once you get used to them being around the military typically throws you another curve ball, either they're deploying again or you're moving, something to keep you on the edge of your seat.

i really, really hope they are able to figure things out & save their marriage. i told B he needs to suggest they go to counseling; in some ways it helped us, in other ways it didn't, but whatever little it did help, we needed & i'm thankful for.