in denial

i can't really face realizing what Z attempted to do to another person, i feel like this is happening to someone else. i want to call the hospital & tell them, yeh, you may have fooled us for a few years, but this kid isn't mine, take him back.

yesterday he got a spanking & spent the afternoon in his room. everything (toys, books, etc) in his room was moved to his closet & he was told if he touched or played with anything other than his books it would go in the trash can. in minutes he was testing the water & specifically chose a book puzzle (although B clearly defined NO puzzles) that he absolutely loves, so he was forced to throw it in the garbage. he also went w/B for a short trip to work. no talking to anyone was the rule which he complied even when they stopped by my office.

this morning we met with the counselor, he thinks Z may have some sort of conduct disorder (although it's really too early to determine for sure). we came home & he worked on homework all morning. in the afternoon we made him sit at the table for hours doing nothing, just sitting there as punishment. we didn't want staying home from school to be a good thing.

i also spoke with his teacher to inform her i did not want him to get recess all next week, i also informed the front office & the principal, maybe between the 3 of them it will happen. i called his afternoon care & told them all next week instead of playtime he's to sit in timeout the entire time he's there.

so no ice cream, no hermit crab, no trip to 6 flags, no treats, no recess, no playtime, no toys & the house is on hi-alert for bad behavior.

we went & got paint tonight. i told B if i'm gonna be in this house 3 days with the 2 of them i have to paint something.